Respectful Parenting

Easy Activities to Help Your Child to Regulate Anger

When our kids are angry, their brain's are out of control. They need us to be the calm and help them to find their calm.The thing is, when they're upset,...

Help! My Toddler Won't Stop Throwing Things

If they have the urge to throw then they need to throw. Give them something you’re happy for them to throw, and you’ll find your battling with your toddler much...

How to get Your Child to Listen to You Without Resorting to Shouting

It's all about how you say it!Respectful parenting always works, it's just about being firm, kind and holding your boundaries.It can be a hard pill to swallow, but children don't...

Child with Big Behaviours

You don't want to lose control and get angry with your child. It doesn't feel good inside. You're just tired, overwhelmed and don't know what else to do.Your child doesn't...

Children Copy Everything They See Us Doing

Some people tell me their partners are looking for evidence that respectful, authoritative parenting is better for kids, that it ‘works’. This is evidence enough. Kindness and firmness goes a...

Wacth me Co-regulate with my Toddler

Co-regulation basically means calming down together.When our children are losing it and misbehaving, often that makes us want to ‘lose it’ with them and shout. Their dysregulation makes us dysregulated....

Reminder: Kids Truly Don't Want to Misbehave

Kids TRULY don’t want to misbehave. Even if it looks like they’re laughing, they’re doing so because they feel so uncomfortable and out of control. If we choose to not...

Are You Accidentally Making Your Child's Behaviour Worse?

Co-regulation (being the calm they need to see) is the FASTEST and BEST way to support our little one's behaviour.If we loose our cool, we only add to their discomfort...

Responding Respectfully: When Your Toddler has a Tantrum

Tantrums are TRIGGERING.Remember that if you were parented to be “seen and not heard” or sent to your room when you were a dysregulated child - tantrums are probably going...

When your Child is Triggered by "No"

Another strategy for your toolbox.Sometimes even the feeling of ‘no’ can be triggering for our kids and can send them into a bit of a spiral. INSTEAD, try redirecting by...

Instead of "You're okay"... Say....

Kids truly don’t cry for no reason.That’s probably not what you’ve been lead to believe, but behind that crying (behaviour) is ALWAYS something that’s being communicated. Even if a child...

2 Rules I stick to at the Park

The park is FUN ENOUGH at ground level without adults having to intervene. It's so tempting - but kids actually do fine not being put up to the top of...

Behaviour Strategy: Notice & Praise

See the good behaviour and make your child feel good about it. Why? Because we know from research that it’ll promote more good behaviour and make you both feel happier....

There is No Such Thing as Naughty

All behaviour is communication.And yes it can be super triggering and frustrating for us as adults. Chances are that we were punished for misbehaving and you're not alone if you...

Have we Normalised being Unkind to Children?

Parenting is hard, and when we don’t know how to handle the behaviours our kids throw at us, we revert back to all we’ve ever known: how our parents parented...

How to Stop your Toddler Hitting

Toddlers are tiny and their emotions are huge. When they don’t know what to do with those emotions, they often burst out as physical aggression. And who can blame them?...

Reminder: Kids Behaviour

So often we want our toddler's behaviour to change. But that change starts with us.When you're feeling angry with your toddler, it's even more triggering when they shout or continue...

Early Signs Your Child Might be on the Autism Spectrum

Autism Spectrum Disorder is just that; a spectrum. Its not a straight line from 'not autistic' to 'autistic', it's a vibrant colour palette of characteristics that a person with ASD...