Respectful Parenting
How to be the best parent you can be by connecting with your child and holding your boundaries respectfully.
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Are you stuck in a Shouting Cycle?
None of us want to shout at our kids.We don’t plan for it, it just slips out. It slips out of us because that’s how we were parented - that’s...
Why threatening your child with consequences doesn't improve their behaviour
We've all done this. Here's how we do better.1. Guess at and acknowledge the feeling."You're really frustrated""you need my attention""You're angry with your sister".2. Kindy hold your boundary"I won't let...
How to Support Children to Play TOgether
My kids bicker too. And I don't expect that they'll play together. They're different ages, stages, and I respect that my eldest doesn't want a 'baby' interfering in his play....
Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Blackmail in your Family
Children don't control our emotions. We do!What one adult may react to or be triggered by, another adult may not. That's because we're all had different experiences, upbringings and we...
Easy Play Idea: Wool out all the stops
Play is learning. Taking notice of what your child does with things and then giving them other resources to do that same thing helps their development. August loves to tie...
Why you should be a pushover to support your angry child
Being a pushover can help. Fact: kids get themselves all wound up and frustrated. Fact: sometimes you can predict times in the day when your child is going to be...
Supporting Siblings to Play Together
Yes - they fight. But instead of expecting any different from two infants with underdeveloped and impulsive brains, I’m actively supporting them to learn to play together by joining in....
Reasons your Toddler might be Hitting you
They're acting their age.You haven't got a "naughty" child. There's no such thing as naughty. You have a child with an under developed brain who is acting like a child...
What is Co-regulation and how can it help my child's behaviour?
Children DO what they SEE.Children need to SEE us regulate our own emotions and respond to them respectfully and calmly before they learn what to DO and can successfully regulate...
My son won't share with his sister, what can I do?
Sharing isn’t caring. Your child can’t share and that’s okay. It’s developmentally appropriate for our under five year olds to find it difficult to give away the thing that they’re...
You're being silly
They're not being silly. We're not listening. It’s so tempting to say things like “stop being silly, stop being silly, that’s enough” to our children, especially when they’re misbehaving in...
Responding Respectfully to Tantrums
It’s ok to cry. Tantrums are normal. We have to remember this when our little ones are losing it. They’re experiencing a lot of emotions that they don’t know how...
Tackling Toys at the Toy Shop
Yes, this helps young children too.Might they still cry? Yes of course. Their brains are undeveloped and they can't understand the complexities of why they can't have everything they desire....
Why Saying "I won't let you do that" always works for unwanted behaviour
It can't fail, because we won't let it fail.Children need limits. Heaps of them. Almost constantly throughout the day. But that doesn't mean we have to remind them of those...
Say ALL the Kind Things
Things I try to say to my children every day: I’m so proud of you. I love you just the way you are. I wouldn’t change anything about you. You...
Help! My Baby keeps pulling my hair!
Because saying 'ow' makes it worse!There's ALWAYS a respectful way to manage your child's behaviour and help them to do something different. A baby or toddler, with an underdeveloped brain,...
When Your Child is Losing It
All behaviour is communication. More often than not, our children are communicating that they need our HELP.We've had years of practice coping with our emotions and impulses and STILL we...
Why is my Toddler using a Baby Voice all the time?
Your toddler is being a baby.Why is it so triggering?!They're too old to be talking like this now and it's frustrating - you want them to talk normally and use...
How to Reduce Power Struggles
Children challenge us when they feel powerless.And it's fair enough. If our little ones were to spend a day recording us, we'd be shocked with the amount of directions they...
Stop Saying "Use Your Words" (and say this instead)
It's frustrating, I get it. Your smart and eloquent little person is suddenly whinging, misbehaving and lashing out and you're thinking "JUST USE YOUR WORDS!!". I think it every day....
