Respectful Parenting
How to be the best parent you can be by connecting with your child and holding your boundaries respectfully.
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Sharing my chaotic evening of parenting
Hats off to solo parents.Bedtime can be SOOOO triggering. All you want is for everyone to calm down and go to sleep so you can finally have some time to...
Avoid tantrums at the park
This works 👇Preschoolers don’t understand time. “5 more minutes” means nothing when you have no concept of a minute, so no wonder kids get frustrated when suddenly they’re pulled from...
Whats the best thing to say when your kid is having a tantrum
Hear me out ⬇️Kids have tantrums. They're developmentally appropriate - it's a big build up of feelings and emotions that they don't know how to process and it all comes...
Important phrases our kids need to hear
Say what you would have wanted to hear.We have such a HUGE impact on how our children feel about themselves as they grow. How we speak to them now directly...
Understanding your sensitive child's behaviour
How to help⬇️It's time to REFRAME your thinking.Often, the behaviours of highly sensitive children are labelled as 'difficult' - as if they do everything on purpose and with manipulation in...
What to do when your child won't stop misbehaving
This really works ⬇️We've all fallen into this pattern:Our kids are constantly pushing our buttons by misbehaving and arguing and our tone becomes clipped and annoyed. We snap more, we...
Parental Preference
We're in this stage.It's tiring but it'll pass. Check out the strategies here and head to the Zazi hub at zazi.co.nz to easily search all of my posts on behaviour,...
Is this the reason your preschooler is misbehaving?
What to do?New siblings are a huge change for our preschoolers which cannot be underestimated. If you've seen a big shift in your child's behaviour and you're wondering if it...
A mistake I made as a first-time parent
We assure our preschoolers in so many ways that we’ll always be there for them, so to suddenly disappear on them can be really frightening. Share this one with your...
Can't control our kids but we can manage their environment and control ourselves
It all went wrong.We truly can't control our kids.We CAN control ourselves and we CAN manage the environment.I'm NOT saying we should take away all of a child's accountability for...
The Parenting Trap we all fall in to
Play the long game.👌Keep your responses short. You don't even have to say anything at the start (or if you're struggling to regulate yourself) - just stay quiet and be...
Should we punish a child when they have a tantrum?
Expect tantrums.We can't expect children to have the self control and executive functioning skills to stop and think "hang on, last time I had a tantrum it didn't feel fun...
What to do when you're triggered by your child's behaviour
You're not alone.It's no mean feat coping with a child's many outbursts and tantrums. Remember their brains are very underdeveloped and they need to be taught how to manage their...
We need to be kinder to kids (and each other)
Let's be kind.We cant be in each other's brains so we have no idea how someone else is coping.What might look like a child being very ""naughty" is most often...
Supporting your child to play with their friends and siblings
Model model model.- can I sit with you?- can I play?- what are you playing?- can I have a turn?- it's your turn now- let's play together! Watch the full...
Improve your Child's Behaviour with this one Simple Strategy
Our response has the biggest impact on our child's behaviour.When we shift our perspective to see the world through their eyes, we're less likely to snap, shame or feel annoyed...
Why you shouldn't say 'Stop being silly"
We’ve all said it.But we can all say something more helpful when we know better.The more silly - the more dysregulated your child is.If your child is laughing at you...
Bath Refusal Struggles?
Bath refusal?Many kids go through phases of suddenly finding the bath or shower a really stressful place. We can't always put a finger on what triggers such a response, it...
What to say when your child is testing boundaries
Become untriggered.They're doing what they're supposed to be doing. Kids test limits - it's part of brain development. It's a good thing.Try not to take it personally- instead fill up...
Is your child just misbehaving or are they communicating?
You'd be angry too.When our kids are small, especially when they're not yet talking, it's sometimes easy to forget that they have opinions and preferences. They have very little control...
