Respectful Parenting
How to be the best parent you can be by connecting with your child and holding your boundaries respectfully.
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When swimming lessons go wrong...
My response ⬇️When our kids feel dysregulated, out of control, the worst thing we can do is try to be more in control and push them further out of the...
5 Reasons Your Preschooler Isn't Listening To You
😡LISTEN UP!! If adults were to record themselves all day then listen back and tally up allllll the times they give their child a direction, or asked them a question...
Help! My toddler won't stop throwing toys
“stop throwing” doesn’t work. Here’s what does.Our kids need to learn how to throw and they obviously want to practice this skill. We just often don’t like to see it...
Girls have got this!
GIRLS HAVE GOT THIS.Some research into parent interactions with kids has found that parents are more likely to support their boys to take risks and be brave, and more likely...
Behaviour Tip
Time for a behaviour change.Imagine knowing something BIG is going to happen but not knowing when? Imagine someone tells you you're going somewhere tomorrow but you don't know what tomorrow...
No such thing as naughty
Here's how I see it.... Don't get me wrong - I still get triggered by my children. I'm only human and sometimes it really does feel like they're out to...
Why won't my kids calm down?!
You might need to hear this today ⬇️Real talk: I often find my kids' behaviour triggering. The noise of shouting and whinging and crying can feel all too much for...
5 Steps to Help your Child having a hard time
The secret to staying calm ⬇️It starts with remembering that your child having big feelings is totally normal. It's developmentally appropriate. They're not meant to act like adults and forcing...
Sunday Chaos
Nothing relaxing about it.A reminder that gentle, respectful parenting isn't about training kids to be perfect little regulated angels. My kids were all over the shop today.Gentle and respectful parenting...
Whats the best thing to say when your kid is having a tantrum
Hear me out ⬇️Kids have tantrums. They're developmentally appropriate - it's a big build up of feelings and emotions that they don't know how to process and it all comes...
Important phrases our kids need to hear
Say what you would have wanted to hear.We have such a HUGE impact on how our children feel about themselves as they grow. How we speak to them now directly...
What to do when your child won't stop misbehaving
This really works ⬇️We've all fallen into this pattern:Our kids are constantly pushing our buttons by misbehaving and arguing and our tone becomes clipped and annoyed. We snap more, we...
Parental Preference
We're in this stage.It's tiring but it'll pass. Check out the strategies here and head to the Zazi hub at zazi.co.nz to easily search all of my posts on behaviour,...
Can't control our kids but we can manage their environment and control ourselves
It all went wrong.We truly can't control our kids.We CAN control ourselves and we CAN manage the environment.I'm NOT saying we should take away all of a child's accountability for...
What to do when you're triggered by your child's behaviour
You're not alone.It's no mean feat coping with a child's many outbursts and tantrums. Remember their brains are very underdeveloped and they need to be taught how to manage their...
Improve your Child's Behaviour with this one Simple Strategy
Our response has the biggest impact on our child's behaviour.When we shift our perspective to see the world through their eyes, we're less likely to snap, shame or feel annoyed...
Why you shouldn't say 'Stop being silly"
We’ve all said it.But we can all say something more helpful when we know better.The more silly - the more dysregulated your child is.If your child is laughing at you...
Bath Refusal Struggles?
Bath refusal?Many kids go through phases of suddenly finding the bath or shower a really stressful place. We can't always put a finger on what triggers such a response, it...
What to say when your child is testing boundaries
Become untriggered.They're doing what they're supposed to be doing. Kids test limits - it's part of brain development. It's a good thing.Try not to take it personally- instead fill up...
5 Things I'll never do when my kids misbehave
These are basic needs.Despite what you may have experienced in your own upbringing, I just want to remind you that a child’s basic needs should not be removed from them...
