Respectful Parenting
How to be the best parent you can be by connecting with your child and holding your boundaries respectfully.
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When you tell your child to stop doing something and they keep doing it...
Try this ⬇️When we tell our kids exactly what we'd like to see them do, we take away the cognitive load, we take away the temptation, we tell them what...
My kids are fighting over a toy - What we can say
A script! ⬇️The way you speak to your kids is EVERYTHING and it can mean the difference between everything working out and everyone having a meltdown!I find that this fun...
Your child's brain, why they're misbehaving and how to help when they're losing it
What to do ⬇️Sometimes our kids seem to lose it over the smallest things, like what colour cup they drink from or suddenly deciding they don't want something they've asked...
Why I don't say "Good Job" or "Well Done"
IYKYK ⬇️This change makes SUCH a difference and is totally worth practising if you're a parent.WE KNOW that we want to praise our kids and make them feel good but...
Taking Breaks Outdoors
We were losing it ⬇️Sometimes it feels like a military operation trying to get kids outside or to do anything but we do A LOT of it because we see...
When swimming lessons go wrong...
My response ⬇️When our kids feel dysregulated, out of control, the worst thing we can do is try to be more in control and push them further out of the...
Help! My toddler won't stop throwing toys
“stop throwing” doesn’t work. Here’s what does.Our kids need to learn how to throw and they obviously want to practice this skill. We just often don’t like to see it...
Girls have got this!
GIRLS HAVE GOT THIS.Some research into parent interactions with kids has found that parents are more likely to support their boys to take risks and be brave, and more likely...
Behaviour Tip
Time for a behaviour change.Imagine knowing something BIG is going to happen but not knowing when? Imagine someone tells you you're going somewhere tomorrow but you don't know what tomorrow...
No such thing as naughty
Here's how I see it.... Don't get me wrong - I still get triggered by my children. I'm only human and sometimes it really does feel like they're out to...
Why won't my kids calm down?!
You might need to hear this today ⬇️Real talk: I often find my kids' behaviour triggering. The noise of shouting and whinging and crying can feel all too much for...
5 Steps to Help your Child having a hard time
The secret to staying calm ⬇️It starts with remembering that your child having big feelings is totally normal. It's developmentally appropriate. They're not meant to act like adults and forcing...
Avoid tantrums at the park
This works 👇Preschoolers don’t understand time. “5 more minutes” means nothing when you have no concept of a minute, so no wonder kids get frustrated when suddenly they’re pulled from...
Parental Preference
We're in this stage.It's tiring but it'll pass. Check out the strategies here and head to the Zazi hub at zazi.co.nz to easily search all of my posts on behaviour,...
Can't control our kids but we can manage their environment and control ourselves
It all went wrong.We truly can't control our kids.We CAN control ourselves and we CAN manage the environment.I'm NOT saying we should take away all of a child's accountability for...
The Parenting Trap we all fall in to
Play the long game.👌Keep your responses short. You don't even have to say anything at the start (or if you're struggling to regulate yourself) - just stay quiet and be...
Should we punish a child when they have a tantrum?
Expect tantrums.We can't expect children to have the self control and executive functioning skills to stop and think "hang on, last time I had a tantrum it didn't feel fun...
What to do when you're triggered by your child's behaviour
You're not alone.It's no mean feat coping with a child's many outbursts and tantrums. Remember their brains are very underdeveloped and they need to be taught how to manage their...
Why you shouldn't say 'Stop being silly"
We’ve all said it.But we can all say something more helpful when we know better.The more silly - the more dysregulated your child is.If your child is laughing at you...
5 Things I'll never do when my kids misbehave
These are basic needs.Despite what you may have experienced in your own upbringing, I just want to remind you that a child’s basic needs should not be removed from them...
